datingapi.io
Private beta 2026

Ship the dating app. Skip the platform.

Members, matching, messaging, moderation and payments: the entire backend of a dating product behind one API. You build the experience. We run everything else.

No spam. Just an invite when your slot opens.

THE HARD PART, SOLVED

Your launch day isn't an empty room.

Every dating app dies the same death: nobody's there. Build on datingapi.io and your product opens into a live shared member network with real profiles and real activity, from your first user onward. Or run a private pool of your own. Your call.

THE SURFACE AREA

Nine systems you no longer have to build.

Your appweb / iOS / AndroidHTTPS · JSONapi.datingapi.io/v1membersmatchingmessagingpaymentstrustmoderationidentityemailwebhooks
  • Members & Profiles

    Registration, profiles, photos, and configurable fields per brand.

  • Discovery & Matching

    Geo, filters, compatibility and boosted visibility on a tuned search engine.

  • Messaging & Realtime

    Conversations, read receipts, typing and live delivery.

  • Payments & Subscriptions

    Hosted checkout, six gateways, trials, promos and dunning. Never touch card data.

  • Fraud & Trust

    Email, IP and VPN screening on every signup. Scammers stopped before they land.

  • Moderation

    AI screening plus human review on every photo and profile.

  • Identity Verification

    Document checks and verified badges, built in.

  • Engagement

    Lifecycle email, digests and re-engagement, running for you.

  • Events & Webhooks

    Signed, retried, real-time. Your systems know the moment anything happens.

onboard.ts
// 1. create a member
const member = await fetch("https://api.datingapi.io/v1/members", {
  method: "POST",
  headers: {
    "Authorization": `Bearer ${DATINGAPI_KEY}`,
    "Content-Type": "application/json",
  },
  body: JSON.stringify({
    email: "ada@example.com",
    display_name: "Ada",
    birthdate: "1993-04-08",
    location: { lat: 51.5072, lng: -0.1276 },
  }),
});

// 2. search the shared network
const results = await fetch(
  "https://api.datingapi.io/v1/search?radius_km=25&age=25,38",
  { headers: { "Authorization": `Bearer ${DATINGAPI_KEY}` } },
);

An afternoon, not eighteen months.

  • REST and JSON. Nothing exotic.
  • SDKs for TypeScript, PHP and Python.
  • Sandbox keys and test data from the moment you sign up.

EVENTS, AS THEY HAPPEN

Your systems hear everything.

Every signup, match, message, payment and moderation decision arrives as a signed webhook, retried until you acknowledge it.

webhooks · livesigned
  • member.createdid=mem_8f21c · 42ms
  • photo.approvedmoderation=ai+human
  • match.createdscore=0.91
  • message.deliveredconversation=cnv_31a
  • identity.verifieddocument=passport

BUILT FOR SCALE

Traffic you haven't had yet is already handled.

The same infrastructure serves a first-week launch and a network of millions: multi-region, autoscaled, and measured on every request.

api throughput

18,420req/s

p50 11msp99 48mslive

edge regions

  • us-east9ms
  • us-west12ms
  • eu-west8ms
  • eu-central11ms
  • ap-southeast16ms
  • sa-east21ms

200+

brands running

Millions

of members

6

payment gateways

99.9%

uptime

WHO IT'S FOR

Founders

Launch in weeks with liquidity on day one, instead of spending a year building a platform nobody has joined yet.

Established operators

Replace an ageing backend and keep your brand, your funnel and your members exactly as they are.

Agencies & studios

Ship dating products for clients without building the platform twice, or ever again.

Build the dating app. We'll run the rest.

Private beta. Limited slots.